Oct 042016
 
Renting for Romance-Boomers with Benefits

It was a rude awakening to realize that my rent is now equivalent to my take-home salary, give or take a few Starbucks lattes. Single, boomer, broke—and working full-time. Welcome to Silicon Valley–an exciting place to live–especially if you’re in your twenties, with impeccable geek/nerd/ and/or MBA credentials, and earning the equivalent of my annual […]

Jan 202015
 
MIDLIFE LADIES, JONI MITCHELL, AND MALPRACTICE

Physical maintenance and midlife go together, just like love and marriage (or so we thought). Medical adventures await both boomer men and women, but there’s a difference. Bias can block the brainwaves, resulting in inferior medical care—even tragedy—and even worse for the medical practitioner—in a malpractice suit. It started hundreds of years ago—maybe when Hippocrates […]

Dec 262014
 
CHRISTMAS, CHRISMUKKAH, INTERMARRIAGE AND THE GREAT BOOMER MASHUP

Welcome to the Boomer mashup at holiday time. Besides sex, drugs, rock ‘n roll and Woodstock, many Boomers went off the reservation for marriage, religion, and parenting—intermarrying, adopting other religions or becoming atheists/Wiccans/Rastafarians, adopting their children, often interracially. We’ve created a multicultural mashup that both blooms and boomerangs at holiday time. It’s especially relevant this […]

Sep 032014
 
THE SENATE SINGALONG, THE MATURE SINGLE, AND SEX

As a music-loving mature single, I’ve danced and sung along in sweaty dives, badly lit blues bars, crowded clubs, and other typical live music venues. Last week, I abandoned the blues bars and boomer Meetups for two unusual sing-alongs–an informal singalong group that meets after services at Congregation Kol Emeth and to a Beatles Shabbat […]

Aug 202014
 
ROBIN WILLIAMS, BOOMER, R.I.P.

I found out that Robin Williams was dead just as I was called into a family meeting at the bedside of an elderly patient. Two medical teams, including Hospice, were with five of the patient’s eight children to discuss end-of-life decisions. “Do you want to be included in this discussion?” the Hospice doc asked the […]

Jul 082014
 
BOOMERS AND LITTLE OLD LADIES--MATURE SINGLE IN MANHATTAN-CHAPTER 3

Strolling the streets of the West Village of Manhattan is an eye-filling experience for this mature single. After years of marriage, divorce, and mature singlehood in Silicon Valley, at least some of the variety of human beings I’m seeing are not software engineers, hardware geeks, or programmers. A whole new cast of characters, lots of […]

Jun 262014
 
BOOOMER GRADUATIONS:  MATURE SINGLE IN MANHATTAN CHAPTER TWO

It’s the season of graduations—elementary school, high school, college. A friend just showed me a video of her child’s graduation from Pre-School where the kids even wore mortarboard hats. But graduations are not just for children or young people– they’re also for parents. As a mature single, it’s a mostly sweet—but also bittersweet—boomer life cycle […]

Jun 182014
 
Too Old to Party? The Mature Single in Manhattan--Chapter 1

I’m in Manhattan—a divorced mature single—here in New York for my daughter’s college graduation. It’s the day before the graduation, and I’m in a club in Manhattan on the Upper West Side, surrounded by twenty-somethings. I’m the only boomer-age person in the room. The Gen-Y D.J. has the volume turned up to assault levels—the walls […]

May 222014
 
Dying before Lunch:  The Mature Single, Medicine, and Meetings with Mortality

Our least favorite topics? Death and taxes. if faced with only these two alternatives, I’ll take taxes. Boomers don’t believe in death. Committed to our longevity, Fitbits attached, we’ll do whatever it takes to avoid the very last lifecycle event–like children playing hide-and-seek by covering their eyes. Meetings with mortality wait in the wings for […]

Mar 232014
 
WOODY ALLEN R US? BOOMERS, ROMANCE AND THE WOODY ALLEN SCANDAL

Woody Allen, born in 1935, is too old to be a Boomer, but he is part of us. We grew up with his movies. His take on romance are part and parcel of the Boomer experience, and his film character is one of our heroes. I recently met a man at one of those self-actualization […]