Nov 052017
 
Apples and Oranges:  Mature Single Orange Tangles with Apple

Steve Jobs has been dead since 2011 and he’s messing with my love life. Jobs invented Apple; like many other non-geniuses, I am an orange. And I’m still looking for my “media naranja”—my “half orange”/partner/soul mate to make beautiful fruit salad together. I was made aware of Job’s power over me this past Mother’s Day. […]

Sep 102017
 
Boomers in Bed-Libido, Love, and LTRs

There’s an aspect of my current state as a boomer mature single that is distinctly inconvenient —my libido. In theory, sex is all men ever want and I should be handing out numbers like a deli counter. If you’re looking for the whole package—libido plus LTR—life is more complicated. (We’re not counting the twenty-eight-old aspiring […]

Jul 082017
 
Mature Single Dating--A Bumpy Ride

Even I have to admit that it’s not going well. The road to finding my boomer soul mate seems lined with banana peels– an obstacle course full of pratfalls as hope collides with reality. The true definition of madness—according to none other than Albert Einstein—“is repeating the same action, over and over, hoping for a […]

Oct 042016
 
Renting for Romance-Boomers with Benefits

It was a rude awakening to realize that my rent is now equivalent to my take-home salary, give or take a few Starbucks lattes. Single, boomer, broke—and working full-time. Welcome to Silicon Valley–an exciting place to live–especially if you’re in your twenties, with impeccable geek/nerd/ and/or MBA credentials, and earning the equivalent of my annual […]

Jan 202015
 
MIDLIFE LADIES, JONI MITCHELL, AND MALPRACTICE

Physical maintenance and midlife go together, just like love and marriage (or so we thought). Medical adventures await both boomer men and women, but there’s a difference. Bias can block the brainwaves, resulting in inferior medical care—even tragedy—and even worse for the medical practitioner—in a malpractice suit. It started hundreds of years ago—maybe when Hippocrates […]

Dec 262014
 
CHRISTMAS, CHRISMUKKAH, INTERMARRIAGE AND THE GREAT BOOMER MASHUP

Welcome to the Boomer mashup at holiday time. Besides sex, drugs, rock ‘n roll and Woodstock, many Boomers went off the reservation for marriage, religion, and parenting—intermarrying, adopting other religions or becoming atheists/Wiccans/Rastafarians, adopting their children, often interracially. We’ve created a multicultural mashup that both blooms and boomerangs at holiday time. It’s especially relevant this […]

Sep 032014
 
THE SENATE SINGALONG, THE MATURE SINGLE, AND SEX

As a music-loving mature single, I’ve danced and sung along in sweaty dives, badly lit blues bars, crowded clubs, and other typical live music venues. Last week, I abandoned the blues bars and boomer Meetups for two unusual sing-alongs–an informal singalong group that meets after services at Congregation Kol Emeth and to a Beatles Shabbat […]

Aug 202014
 
ROBIN WILLIAMS, BOOMER, R.I.P.

I found out that Robin Williams was dead just as I was called into a family meeting at the bedside of an elderly patient. Two medical teams, including Hospice, were with five of the patient’s eight children to discuss end-of-life decisions. “Do you want to be included in this discussion?” the Hospice doc asked the […]

Jul 082014
 
BOOMERS AND LITTLE OLD LADIES--MATURE SINGLE IN MANHATTAN-CHAPTER 3

Strolling the streets of the West Village of Manhattan is an eye-filling experience for this mature single. After years of marriage, divorce, and mature singlehood in Silicon Valley, at least some of the variety of human beings I’m seeing are not software engineers, hardware geeks, or programmers. A whole new cast of characters, lots of […]

Jun 262014
 
BOOOMER GRADUATIONS:  MATURE SINGLE IN MANHATTAN CHAPTER TWO

It’s the season of graduations—elementary school, high school, college. A friend just showed me a video of her child’s graduation from Pre-School where the kids even wore mortarboard hats. But graduations are not just for children or young people– they’re also for parents. As a mature single, it’s a mostly sweet—but also bittersweet—boomer life cycle […]