The Mature & Single Experience
Separated, then divorced, children grown, in mid-life (to describe it diplomatically), I realized one day that I had spent almost six years of my life on line. I had had numerous encounters—educational, entertaining, disconcerting–multiple coffee dates, several relationships, but had not found a partner. (Although there had been a few memorable near misses and false alarms).
Nonplussed by the realization, I decided to stop searching and start writing.
L.I.L. is one woman’s dispatches from the front line and her commentaries on the journey towards that ultimate goal—a L.L.P. — Loving Life Partnership.
This is me reflecting, commenting, questioning, sometimes laughing, about the experience of being alone at mid-life.
And it’s going to run the gamut from funny, serious, silly scary, sad, or simply off-the wall—like the experience itself.
Because this stuff is just too serious not to laugh about.
Welcome to L.I.L. Enjoy the journey. After all, what are the options?
Here we are, 40 million of the 54 million single people in the United States (StatisticBrain.com-Online Dating Statistics 2012), lost in a thicket of social media–hacking our way through the underbrush to find a simple hand clasp, arms to hold us, a companion to share morning coffee, errands, the daily vicissitudes of life. Sex, of course.
(A three-letter word almost never used in dating profiles).
And millions of us are over fifty-single, aging Baby Boomers, whether never married, widowed, or divorced.
“Someone turns 50 every 8 seconds. Each year more than 3.5 million boomers turn 55. By 2012, America’s 50 and older population will reach 100 million,” writes Anthony Cirillo in the About.com Guide for “Assisted Living.”
We support an online dating industry of $1,049 billion, on which we each spend an average of $239 a year. In fact, the Center for Marriage and Family Research are talking about “the Gray Divorce Revolution,” because of the rate at which Boomers are uncoupling.
We’re on laptops, IPhones, IPads, Ipods, smart phones, Skyping, texting, Googling, emailing, IM’ing—continual connection 24/7. How can we be so connected–yet not connect?